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TOMATIS Praha
TOMATIS Prague
Autism,developmental disorders of speech, hyperactivity
Thierry Gaujarengues
President of company TDSA
Today: 3.4. Name-day: Richard
Communication
Communication
The essential of interpersonal relations in family, among friends or at the workplace is communication. Many of us believe that the crucial thing for understanding is the ability to speak clearly and pronounce well. That is true, but also the complementary ability – to receive the information, to listen – is very important. In English there are two verbs connected to the sense of hearing: “to hear” and “to listen”. Is there any difference between them? What is “listening” actually? And how differs “listening” from “hearing”?
“Hearing” is physiological capability of a person to perceive information from acoustic signal. “Listening” is active perception of coming sound or information. To listen means not only to hear what others say, but also to follow the content of their message ant to understand this message.
Listening is the foundation stone of many abilities which are connected with sensory perception – improvement in area of efficient listening results in improvement of ability to learn and communicate. Also reading, writing, self-control, even making friends depends on how well “we listen”.
During our life we have to face various barriers, strains, conflicts and stress situations. We use array of defensive and compensative strategies to protect ourselves from difficult situation. One of these mechanisms is the ability of our brain to protect him from negative excitation of sensory organs by immediate or gradual “disconnecting” of them (for example after serious injury we fall unconscious or we don’t feel the pain as much – our brain helps us to cope with the trauma this way).
Similar strategies we also use during the psychical strain. The brain begins to protect us (and him) by reducing of negative input, which could worsen the psychic state further. The result of this action can be in non-hearing of some information (actually we do hear them, but don’t listen to them – we don’t want to accept and process them and we look like there wasn’t said anything), we don’t catch them. In other cases the brain stops perceiving information from some people or in some situation – for example in periodic or stereotype situation, as are meetings in companies which have the same program all the time.
When our brain is forced to use these protecting mechanisms very often (frequent strains of the same type), we are gradually losing the ability to listen to others (but also ourselves). It is kind of (temporary, but sometimes also lasting) “closing of ears” resulting in difficulties in perceiving of important information.
The Listening Program TOMATIS® reactivates the ability to listen, which results further in increasing of our interests, interactivity. We have more active approach to communication and to solving daily tasks.
The model of balanced communication should see also the most important persons – our children. When they in their families see dysbalance – excessive speaking or contrarily remaining silent, their development can in extremely cases differ from the ordinary one. Reasons for different development are various. The Listening Program TOMATIS® can either reduce many of them, or completely eliminate. The organism of children and youngsters is more flexible then the organism of adults, so the effect of the program is quicker or more evident by children and youngsters.
